“Guess what, he said he wants a divorce!”

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Good morning again Lovelies! I got a Daily Post prompt yesterday, which read “call someone, or ask the person next to you what he/ she is thinking, and write about it!” My first thought was what?! And then, I burst into a feat of giggles as I dared myself to take on the challenge.

So I called! And she said, “Guess what, he wants a divorce!” And I’m like “Halleluyah, but what?!”

While it might have been so much more fun writing about what we discussed, I am a little angry typing this post out. I don’t get it, that some men can be so damn insensitive and too old for reasoning sometimes. Okay, this is a little gist about the issue on ground. It’s a typical rich wife, struggling hubby story, and as you would guess, hubby feels so threatened that his wife is thriving. In fairness to the woman, she tries! She is one very generous and giving woman who hates to see the people around her in need. So she just gives, even without expecting a dime in return. She pays the rent, fuels the car, buys foodstuff for the house once in a while, and just about keeps the house running. Just so he doesn’t feel less than a man, she consults him on things and asks him for money for basic house needs – not because she doesn’t have it, but just so he can feel in charge!. She buys him clothes, and gifts – so he looks good!, she pays his tuition fees – dude is yet to bag a proper degree!; but the silly lot that he is, just writes off all the debt he owes to a never- ending tomorrow. She works 8am – 5pm, and so does he, but he’s too much of a man to help around the house. No, I don’t get it. I just think it is grossly unfair!

This goes on for a while, and a cute baby comes along. There’s even more responsibility! Diapers, school fees, baby upkeep, plus the usual rent, clothing’s, foodstuff and all! But hubby is still blinded by hate to step up his game. Wifey still pays his tuition, takes care of rent, takes care of his parents and hers, provides for the baby’s needs (except baby milk and diaper which she has refused to add to her long list) and makes life a little worth living for all of them. Who better than he thanks God for having such a capable wife, and prays to be able to own up to his responsibilities one day so he can pay her back and feel as he should, a man! Yet, all he would do is go to work, come back late (claiming he is not responsible for the traffic on the road), expect already made dinner when there is the baby to care of after a long day at work and he won’t even offer to take care of the baby while she rustles something for them to eat. Osiginni?! I shudder at the thought, and hurt for she who is on this spot! Why?

After a long time overdue, wifey decides enough is enough! No more loans or bad debts, especially because most advances/loan he takes remain unsettled for a very long period of time, until they’re forgotten! No more paying of his school fees, no more birthday gifts (it’s bad enough that during wifey’s birthday, hubby will always say ‘alert never chow!‘ and for the life of me, I can’t believe he almost rendered the same excuse on his son’s birthday! Bhet why!), no more buying of clothes for him (if he can’t buy for wifey and baby, at least let him buy for himself), infact, the list is so longgggg!!!!!

And while we are still thinking, trying to find a reasonable and tenable explanation to hubby’s inhumanity, he wakes up on the wrong side of the bed one bright day, with a dead soggy brain, and says he wants a divorce, simply because wifey said enough is enough? Oh yes, please bring it on! You won’t be missed!

*sigh! It’s sad, more for the little one, than even the mother involved. But hey, if he files that divorce, i’ll be the first to congratulate her!

And so once again lovelies, she said “guess what, he wants a divorce”, and I said “Halleluyah, but what?!”

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To y’all going through this kind of trouble, or something similar oe even worse, I say the Lord is your strength!

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© The Short Black Girl, 2015.

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Sexy chance.

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It was a fleeting impulse. Plus it was dark, and cold too. One of those nights when having someone to hold a brilliant literary conversation with would make a golden moment. Adetutu lay in her bed, headphones on, listening to this meet-up show on radio; at first, with mock interest. She had never really been a fan of those shows, because they just didn’t seem well planned enough to yield something worthwhile.

There were two presenters on there, one male, one female. The man kept pronouncing ‘really’ as re-ally as you would pronounce reality, and the woman just seemed to be trying too hard. But Mr Re- ally had a lovely voice.

She had always wondered if it was okay to meet up through a radio program. Safety issues aside, there was ego to worry about. What would it look like if she sent in a message asking for a Tall Black Handsome dude, with enough cash and kissable lips, only to have her number read out to listeners that knew her at work? Gah! It would be embarrassing and ego- shattering. Plus, it was just pointless, low- meaning, desperate, and cheap, she concluded! But again, there was that fleeting impulse on that cold dark night, and so, she picked up her phone and sent a message to the radio station.

Gargantuan: Hello presenters! ‘m a female writer, and ‘m in Ogun State for a while. I could use some witty, intellectual, humorous and fun company. Preferably, working class male and a writer too (she thought to include female but what if they thought she was a lesbian? So she settled for male, even though all she really needed was some fun company either way). He should be eloquent and almost as talkative as me. He can call Tutu on 0805592625. No night calls please.”

As she lay in wait for her message to be read, she realised she had sent the message to the wrong code. And under yet another impulsive push, she re-sent the message; this time, to the right code. Thirty minutes later, her text was read, startling her from her half- sleep mode. In a second, her eyes flew wide open, and a gentle smile crossed her lips. She liked being read.

“Hello Presenters…” he began, “I am a female writer, and…” he seemed to struggle there for a second. Common! She urged, “and I have been in Ogun State for a while…” what?! Quickly, she went in search of her text and fumed at his attempt to rape her text! I meant i’ll be in Ogun for a while, not I have been, Stupid! He continued reading anyway, “I could use some witty, intellectual, humorous and fun company. Preferably working class male, and a writer too. Should be eloquent and almost as talkative as me…” they both laughed at that.

“Whao! Tutu will sure make one hell of an interesting personality.” he said, and that warmed her heart as she broke into a generous chuckle herself, momentarily forgetting his earlier blunder. “Okay, Tutu is a writer and she re-ally needs…” oh dang, not again Mr Re-ally mhan! I don’t need, she thought in disgust, that’s the height of desperation! “… a witty, intellectual, talkative as herself. You can call her on 0805592625.”

He had barely read the number out when her phone started buzzing with rage. Call after call, number after number, message after message. She checked her wristwatch, it was 11:30pm. So this is what it feels like with this radio thing? She thought in surprise. Gah! Impulsively, she picked one of the random calls.

“H-hello” came the h- factored voice on the other end, from where she could hear the gentle hum of Mr Re-ally’s voice on a radio set. He sounded like an Emeka, with a funkified Yoruba accent.

“Hi.” she managed. He couldn’t be the writer friend she craved, she concluded in her mind unexcitedly, but held on with thoughts that he might prove her wrong.

“H-am Tunji, and h-am a writer.” Nur way! She cut the call in a swift move.

More calls. She picked another random one.

“Hi. Please am I on to Tutu?” hm! Just maybe, she thought. And he had a sexy voice.

“Yeah.” She responded.

“Hi again. So Errr, ‘m based in Lagos…”

Damn! Did these people even listen at all? She mused angrily. Little wonder they started calling even before Mr Re-ally finished reading the message. “Surely, you failed to listen to the requirements.” she replied, clearly disgusted.

“Err… Okay, so you want someone based in Ogun ba?” Tschhhew! She clicked the phone off a second time with a resounding hiss. So he needed her to give him the specifications again, when he could have just taken his sweet time to listen.

A text message followed. “Are you bewaring of my own loquacity and garulousness lady? Let see if u are surpassed me.” it looked more Spanish than Chinese, but that so could not be English, she thought in sheer fury. Damn!

It was sad. She hated that the process had proven her right, and more, that her privacy would most likely, henceforth be invaded by unscrupulous, impatient, desperate creatures who could not even abide by simple well- defined instructions as much as keep a relationship.

In the midst of her thoughts, she realised, that the failure of the radio meet-ups weren’t as much a problem of the organisers as of the listeners themselves, who failed to listen, but only heard. Indeed, the process could be worthwhile, and even fairer, with even chances of success if everyone took their time to listen to each persons needs and responded to only those that synced with theirs, rather than choose to muddle fate with their own ill attitude to life and basic things like love. It was sad.

Her phone had been on silent for a while. She picked it then, to check the time again. While she noted it was just fifteen minutes downside midnight, she couldn’t miss the 55 missed calls that plagued the screen of her phone. Another one was coming in now. She stared at the number hard, and thought to give fate and common sense one more chance that night before resigning to sleep, so she picked it, but with an impatient and tired sigh.

“Hey. The day is barely over and you’re sighing like that?” hm! Humour. She liked. She smiled a bit.

“Hi.”

“Lovely voice, but not as talkative as promised. Tiredness must be an asshole.” She almost asked that he cautioned his words, but jeez, he was funny. She laughed then.

“Okay, so for starters, ‘re you working class?” She asked, trying fruitlessly to contain her excitement.

“Yup. A fashionable, and sassy one too.”

She laughed again. “Good point, but barely needed. You stay in Ogun?”

“Yup to that too. Err, can I…”

“One more thing,” she cut in “do you write?”

“Errr… not re-ally…” No way! Re- ally? Like Mr Re-ally?

“Hold up! Is this…” she hummed a bit as she tried to remember the name his co-presenter had called him… “yes! Is this Subomi from Gargantuan?”

“Errr… Hopefully, it isn’t a crime yet, to use your own product for yourself?”

Now, she really laughed. “I guess not. No wonder. Too much fresh air, I was certain someone must have left the loovers open” she teased.

And he laughed. The chat went on a little much longer, after which they bade their farewells and promised to talk better the next day.

That was a really sexy chance, too much breath of fresh air, and maybe a sign of hope, that some people did listen rather than just hear the needs of people out there; and made sure to only follow up on those ones that they could meet and were sure would meet theirs too. Something about double coincidence of needs, eh? It is only fair, she thought. Because in the end of it all, the winner is never the one that fought most, but the one that paid the most attention to the minutest details.

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© The Short Black Girl, 2015.