“Sometimes, growing up means growing apart.”
“For we choose those we keep and those we let go”
More often than not (honestly, I’d like to think all the time), we grow apart from the people we used to care about and love because we want to. Or they want to. Maybe not in the I’m-done-with-you or a slam-the-door-on-your-way-out kind of way. Usually, it’s a process. All the time, one of both parties lets go first. Growing apart is not such a mystery like we make it seem, or we make ourselves believe. You think it just happens, but it is a conscious act. Sometimes, the universe sets us up and makes us believe there was absolutely nothing we could have done differently.
“I think it happens to everyone as they grow up. You discover who you are and what you want, and then you realize that the people you’ve known forever don’t see things the way you do…”
As humans we grow – we become older every morning with a fresh view to life based on yesterday’s experiences. We don’t notice the little changes, but they happen. We form new opinions about life. We adopt new values and habits. We evolve. We travel and relocate. We learn new things and become more enlightened. We fall in love and lose people to death. We deal with pain. We deal with new challenges. Life happens to us, and some people in our lives fall along the way because they just don’t fit in anymore. Regardless of how we feel about them, if they don’t fit into our moment, we let them go.
“… And so you keep the wonderful memories, but find yourself moving on”
Truth is, we cannot keep hold on to every single person we’ve made friends or acquaintance with – It’d be a huge circle and one impossible to manage. You want to live in the fricking moment, so you have to let go of what was; of the things and people that don’t fit in anymore. Because you, like them, will grow up, evolve and deal with life. You’ll meet more people: some of them you’ll still lose, a few others will last a long long time – maybe for as long as you live. But in the end, the memories of the times you were might just be all you’d be left with. And the memories would make a part of your story. And you’ll feel your heart warm every time you remember them or cross paths again. And you will be fine.
“You have to let people go. Everyone who is in your life is meant to be a part of your journey, but not all of them are meant to stay till the end.”
Author’s Nsme: Yinka Adewuyi
Blog Address: http://www.yinkawuyi.wordpress.com
Author’s Bio: Eccentric. Ordinary. Deep and wishful thinker. Life-liver. Benjamin Clementine’s biggest fan.
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