The thing about traffic…


I am not a fan of slow moving traffic, especially during hot seasons like this… but on some days, I take an exception. Especially on those days when I need to think about my life. Just the same way the toilet in your house seems to create that ambience you need to call your thoughts home, with the toilet seat giving you the much comfort you may need; the bus, for me is that perfect thinking place.

Today is one of such days when ‘m not quite sure how I feel. Good or superb? Fine, or okay? So I like that I can sit in this one place, where no one knows me or cares about me, plug in my earpiece to the sonorous renditions of Nico vinz, Asa, Di’ja, Korede and many more on a random shuffle on my phone, and take a peek into what it is that may be bothering me, or not bothering me.

In the middle of this soul search, I have made a quick discovery (one that may or may not be new to you, but has only just occurred to me) which is this- how you feel you look, has a great and direct impact on your mood. Yes, i’ve heard so much about how your combination of colours determines your mood, but this is different. It is how the mere thought of knowing or being aware that you look appealing makes you feel good, despite the worries that may be plaguing your heart. And I am so happy about this discovery, because perhaps, I just might have found a partial solution to my random and annoying mood swings. Plus this, it has provided a perfect justification for this one thing that I do- telling people that have a fine hair, scarf, shoe, or just that ‘hey-wonder’ look how beautiful they are or look– which my siblings sometimes think out- of- place. I just feel you never know when that fine comment you pass to someone about what they have on, or how they look will just turn their bad day into a fantastic one.

While I haven’t been able to address how it is that I feel exactly in the middle of this daunting traffic and movement from one bus to another in search of my own redemption, I am happy I have been able to pen this down and maybe add that one little thing to someone’s daily routine.

Tell someone they look beautiful today, and mean it. And when next you feel down, up your mood with one of your best dresses. The sheer feeling of knowing you look good without that brother or sister’s comment will do you wonders.

Happy Sunday family!


© The Short Black Girl, 2015.


4 thoughts on “The thing about traffic…

  1. Hehe, the lavatory works for me… I actually think better in there. Anyway, I think I can relate to this very well.

    Nico vinz, yaaay!! Ah-hem, ok, back to basis…

    Of course, knowing that you look awesome affects the psyche positively. We tend to float with so much grace with that knowledge. It’s the exact opposite, otherwise.

    Anyway, complimenting people is cool, until they start thinking there is something attached to your being nice.

    Nowadays, I just compliment guys (no homo)… Like nice watch… Ladies are too complicated. Except if she has a glorious diastema however. That my sister, I cant let pass without a mention.

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    1. Hahahah! I can totally relate to your comment. At a point too, I stopped complementing guys. I think it goes both ways. We all feel the other sex would start to think we got a thing for them if we compliment them but sometimes, I just ditch that thought and go right ahead to let the guy feel himself if he would. I just really cannot be bothered fa! Lool.

      And this love you’ve got for Diastema is just pure enviable. Lool. For me, I think it’s dimples, but even at that, I don’t compliment people’s dimples. I just admire it and smile in my head. Heheh.

      Thanks for dropping your thoughts! You’re appreciated! 😉


  2. You forgot to add “beautiful”
    The “short, black and beautiful girl” there, that’s better!
    Compliments are great, I give them generously, to all sexes. Especially the females!
    So, to always feel good, one should look good always! Great lesson

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    1. Hahah! How flattered do I feel right now? Very!!! Thanks Doctor!

      I think it’s just fine to pass the compliments to both sexes when necessary, regardless of what who thinks or decides to insinuate.

      Thanks for stopping by! 🙂


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